This is an article we wrote for our Affiliate Tools HQ membership site but I thought it was important enough to post here.
In the past we’ve had some interesting experiences with people that really reveal how different we all are particularly in our attitude to money. It can oftentimes generate a negative reaction in a lot of people, particularly for those that don’t have much of it. And I know that even what I am about to write here will get a lot of people riled up. If that is how you feel about it when you have finished reading this, then you need this more than anyone. This is where you need to apply your focus because it will be affecting how much money you make in your life. Getting riled up and defensive about money usually means you have issues somewhere that need to be resolved. You have been brought up to believe one thing and you find it difficult to accept someone else’s view.
Just know that we are not here to rile people up, we just want to help you move forward in this business because I truly believe that one of the main reasons you aren’t succeeding is because of your attitude towards money.
A good majority of us are brought up to believe that either money is evil or that you have to work hard to get it…or both! If you were brought up in a lower or middle class environment then that is probably what you were taught.
I was brought up in a middle class environment although it started out more at the lower end of the scale. And although I wasn’t brought up by my parents to believe money was evil, I was brought up to believe that you had to work hard to get it. And then of course TV reinforced that only those evil, nasty, greedy people have money. So for quite a period in my life, I wasn’t really favorable towards the rich.
It wasn’t until many years later that I had a major turnaround. This came about through a mix of self-improvement authors and speakers until I realized that my thinking was affecting my ability to make money. If I thought the rich were evil then how could I ever be rich? I didn’t want to be evil so I couldn’t never make much money. Makes sense doesn’t it?
The problem was, the only reason I thought rich people were evil was because of just a bit too much TV. In reality, I had never met a really rich person. The only ones I had ever seen were on TV and they were usually typecast as a villain of some sort, or manipulative or some grumpy old miser. So what was I basing my opinion on?
This business that we are in is all about the money…that is essentially why people want to get into it. That and the ability to work from home. You’d be hard pressed to find anyone that comes into it with the sole reason to help people. That may be a side effect as you move into the business but not the primary reason you came into it. You may not want to hear that but think about why you are doing what you are doing…you keep struggling every day to crack it because you want a full time income. Would you still be doing it if there was no money to be made from it?
That’s why I can only laugh now when someone unsubscribes from our email list with the reason…”it’s all about the money for you” because I agree with them 100%. And yet, that person who unsubscribes is all about the money too….they just don’t see it. If they are following our email list then they would most likely have a website and have affiliate links on their site. So aren’t they promoting something and making money from it? They should probably remove their affiliate links and out of the goodness of their heart give up their day job and just spend hours providing valuable information for free. Do you think they would do that?
We have to eat after all so yes it is about the money for us…well maybe not all about the money but it is important to us. We can say that out loud because we no longer believe that money is evil. We like money….can you say that and really mean it? It may be tough for many to accept that money is a good thing. If you want to live comfortably in this society then you need money…if you want to feed your family then you need money… if you really want to help other people in a big way then you need money. It’s as simple as that so why not enjoy it?
When you think about it, money is only a bit of paper or some numbers on a screen. Money is never the problem…people are the problem. Just like a gun is never a problem until someone stands behind it and uses it in the wrong way. So yes there are evil and nasty rich people, but there are also evil and nasty poor people. Do you think that being poor is going to make you a saint? Believe me, I’ve met plenty of poor people that I wouldn’t want to be breaking bread with.
If you have negative thoughts about money then it’s most likely that you don’t have much of it. You’d be hard pressed to find a rich person who doesn’t like money. They like it, they appreciate it and they use it wisely.
So it all comes down to this… if you want to start making more money than you currently earn then you have to change your thoughts about money. You are never going to make the big dollars while you have negative thoughts about it.
So how do you change those thoughts? First you have to recognize which negative thoughts you are holding on to. Here are just a few:
- money is the root of all evil
- rich people are evil/bad/manipulative/greedy
- I have to work hard/long hours to make a good living
- money doesn’t come easily
- I never have enough money at the end of the week
- money corrupts people
- money isn’t everything
- money isn’t important to me
- I don’t need money to be happy
- if I become rich I will have to look after my relatives
- people will just expect money from me if I am rich
- money doesn’t grow on trees
- I don’t need much money to live happily
- I’m always running out of money
- you have to be dishonest to make money
Now you might be thinking that some of these are actually true and yes you’d be right. Of course you don’t need money to be happy and we know money isn’t everything and you may not actually have enough money by the end of the week. They all may be true but when these thoughts are your constant thoughts then you are essentially telling yourself that you don’t need or want any money. You get what you think about and if you constantly think that you don’t need money then you won’t have any money.
Then of course there are the excuses. The family is a good one. I am always fascinated when people say “my family is more important than money”. Of course they are, I wouldn’t doubt it for a second, but what the family becomes is an excuse not to make money. “I don’t have much money because I have a family to look after.”
The same applies to mortgages…”I don’t have much money because I am paying off a mortgage.”
Or “I don’t have much of an education so I can’t achieve much in life and therefore can’t make much money”.
All of these things are just excuses. Hundreds of thousand of rich people have families and mortgages and they are doing just fine. And some of the wealthiest people in the world had very little education.
You don’t want these excuses to constantly float around in your head. Sure they may be true now, but don’t make them an excuse not to move forward.
We get into a thinking pattern that keeps us stuck in the same old pattern day after day. And I say ‘we’ because we too are still not quite there. We’ve come a long way but we could do so much better. If we knew it all I’d have a house overlooking Sydney Harbour and be driving a Jag.
All I know is, that around the same time we started reading books and attending seminars about changing our financial thinking, things started to fall into place and the money started to flow in. Coincidence?…maybe, but in my gut I truly don’t think so.
What’s the Next Step?
Once you’ve figured out what negative thoughts you are holding on to, you need to keep a watchful eye on your thought patterns. Just think about how you talk to people about the economy, how much money you have, whether you can afford to buy something and so on. These will all reflect your attitudes to money.
If you keep telling yourself that you can’t afford this or can’t afford that, then you are continually reinforcing your lack of money.
Also, start being happy for people who have a lot of abundance in their life. If you feel jealous that they have more than you or you think they must just be greedy and manipulative to have that sort of money, then you are seeing them in the wrong way. You have to start liking rich people if you want to be a rich person. Just remember that because they are rich it doesn’t mean they aren’t nice people and in fact it is the wealthy that usually donate the most.
Having money doesn’t make you a good person or a bad person – it is simply a way of buying stuff. It’s nothing more than that when you look at it.
- Secrets of the Millionaire Mind – this is a must read if you want to change your money mindset. However, don’t be put off by the promotional stuff in the book. Just look past that because this book is invaluable for changing your money blueprint. It’s one of our favorites!